This time of year, as the holidays approach, my thoughts turn to the topic of joy vs. obligation. Here’s what I mean…
We humans do stuff. All kinds of stuff. Our lives are full of stuff we “have to do.” But do we really? Are we doing things out of joy, or out of obligation? This crucial distinction can impact the quality of your life.
Yes, we live in this world (for now) and there are certain non-fun things we have to do. Let’s take laundry, for an example. I can’t think of anyone I know who enjoys doing laundry. It’s something we humans just have to do. But try turning “I hate doing laundry” into “I like having clean clothes to wear.” Or “I love it when my clothes are warm from the dryer.” Or “It’s a blessing to have a closet full of nice, clean clothing.” Take that obligation and view it from a perspective of joy.
If the majority of your activities are done out of obligation rather than joy, you may start to feel the strain of this in your physical body. Notice where in your body you feel pain or discomfort. What does this pain keep you from doing, or make it difficult for you to do? It’s likely a task that you don’t really want in your life. Can you take a break from this activity in order to give your physical body a chance to heal? Perhaps you’ll find a different way of accomplishing the task, one that is more in alignment with your joy. Or you may find that you didn’t really need to be doing the dreaded task at all, and were just stubbornly holding on to it out of a misplaced sense of obligation. (I speak from experience here!)
Trying saying this out loud: “I choose a life of joy, not obligation.” Then, one by one, look at each “have to do” in your life. Can you change your perspective on the task to take it from an obligation to a joy? Can you change the way you accomplish the task to make it more fun, more joyful? Can you give it up altogether? If you give this a try, let me know what happens!
My new guided meditation honors our loved ones in spirit by reaching out to connect with them. Before listening to this meditation, you may wish to take some time to prepare a sacred space. To do this, find a place which you feel has good energy, either in your home or outside. In this space, you may want to place a few objects that remind you of your loved ones in spirit. This may include pictures of them, their favorite foods or drinks, and objects that belonged to them or that they gave you. You may want to include candles and flowers. You may even want to do this meditation beside their final resting place. Do whatever feels right to you.
You can find this meditation here or on iTunes. Enjoy this time with those you love.
If you’re moving along a spiritual path, you’ve likely wondered, “What’s my mission?” I was kind of obsessed with this question. Like, for years. I wanted all the details. What is it? What will it look like? Where will it take me? Who will be there? I had so many questions… and got increasingly frustrated as time passed without receiving any answers.
But I’ve come to realize that my mission isn’t about doing, but about being. I let go of the questions, and instead opened up to the feel of my mission. And it came to me that compassion and joy are my mission. And this doesn’t necessarily mean doing any particular activity – though acts of joy and compassion are wonderful – it’s really about being joyful and compassionate in each moment.
This isn’t easy. I’m human. I have fears and judgments. I make mistakes. But each new moment is a reset – I have the opportunity to realign with the essence of compassion and joy over and over again, all day, every day. This starts with positive, loving feelings toward myself and my body, and spreads from there.
So instead of asking what your mission is, try calming your mind and opening to the feel of your mission. The answer may be simpler than you think.
The veil is thin this time of year. My latest meditation, Spirit Team Meeting, helps you reach out to your spiritual support team in order to open to their guidance and give them thanks. Your “spirit team” is unique to you, and can include angels, archangels, ascended masters, spirit guides, loved ones in spirit – even such creatures as fairies and dragons! It’s all about what works for you.
You can find this guided meditation here or on iTunes. Have a beautiful autumn!
It’s back to school time, so let’s go to Space College!
My son came up with the phrase “space college” to describe the concept of learning from the universe through meditation. I like the term, so I’m borrowing it from him. This guided meditation will help you connect with the educational resources of the universe in order to aid your intuitive development. You can find it here or on iTunes. Enjoy!
One of my kids is learning to drive. He doesn’t like it much, and didn’t drive at all for a while. (That’s okay with me. I don’t push my kids to comply with societal expectations.) Today, he got back on the road. He did fine, but felt scared. And then felt dumb for being scared. And then said something that moved me – “I guess it’s not dumb. I have a right to have fear. I just don’t need to have fear.”
We humans have a right to feel fear, along with all the other emotions. But we don’t need to carry our fears around forever. Recognizing and honoring our fears can help us to release them. That way, they no longer hold us back.
So how do you release a fear? My go-to method is tapping. Here’s a super simple process:
Gently tap on any of the tapping points (see image below).
Say “I release my fear of (whatever scares you).” Repeat this as many times as you’d like.
Stop tapping and take a deep breath.
Release the breath while letting go of the fear.
Repeat the process as needed until you feel the fear start to loosen its hold on you.
If you give this a try, let me know how it works for you!