Our lives are full of emotions and experiences, some good and others not so good. We tend to focus on the not-so-good. We dredge up pain from the past, we fret over the future. But there’s SO MUCH GOOD in life. What if we spent more time focusing on that?
Try this. Find a place to sit quietly, close your eyes, and focus on one good thing in your life. Just one. It doesn’t have to be big; sometimes the little things are the sweetest. Really feel the goodness of that one thing. Let that good feeling sink into your bones. Let it swirl through your body. Feel it lift you up. Now, don’t you feel better?
It only takes a few minutes, but focusing on the good, giving it room to grow, can turn your day around. It might even turn your life around.
This time of year, as the holidays approach, my thoughts turn to the topic of joy vs. obligation. Here’s what I mean…
We humans do stuff. All kinds of stuff. Our lives are full of stuff we “have to do.” But do we really? Are we doing things out of joy, or out of obligation? This crucial distinction can impact the quality of your life.
Yes, we live in this world (for now) and there are certain non-fun things we have to do. Let’s take laundry, for an example. I can’t think of anyone I know who enjoys doing laundry. It’s something we humans just have to do. But try turning “I hate doing laundry” into “I like having clean clothes to wear.” Or “I love it when my clothes are warm from the dryer.” Or “It’s a blessing to have a closet full of nice, clean clothing.” Take that obligation and view it from a perspective of joy.
If the majority of your activities are done out of obligation rather than joy, you may start to feel the strain of this in your physical body. Notice where in your body you feel pain or discomfort. What does this pain keep you from doing, or make it difficult for you to do? It’s likely a task that you don’t really want in your life. Can you take a break from this activity in order to give your physical body a chance to heal? Perhaps you’ll find a different way of accomplishing the task, one that is more in alignment with your joy. Or you may find that you didn’t really need to be doing the dreaded task at all, and were just stubbornly holding on to it out of a misplaced sense of obligation. (I speak from experience here!)
Trying saying this out loud: “I choose a life of joy, not obligation.” Then, one by one, look at each “have to do” in your life. Can you change your perspective on the task to take it from an obligation to a joy? Can you change the way you accomplish the task to make it more fun, more joyful? Can you give it up altogether? If you give this a try, let me know what happens!
One of my kids is learning to drive. He doesn’t like it much, and didn’t drive at all for a while. (That’s okay with me. I don’t push my kids to comply with societal expectations.) Today, he got back on the road. He did fine, but felt scared. And then felt dumb for being scared. And then said something that moved me – “I guess it’s not dumb. I have a right to have fear. I just don’t need to have fear.”
We humans have a right to feel fear, along with all the other emotions. But we don’t need to carry our fears around forever. Recognizing and honoring our fears can help us to release them. That way, they no longer hold us back.
So how do you release a fear? My go-to method is tapping. Here’s a super simple process:
Gently tap on any of the tapping points (see image below).
Say “I release my fear of (whatever scares you).” Repeat this as many times as you’d like.
Stop tapping and take a deep breath.
Release the breath while letting go of the fear.
Repeat the process as needed until you feel the fear start to loosen its hold on you.
If you give this a try, let me know how it works for you!
the state of being calm, peaceful, and untroubled.
In the balancing act of life, it’s important to maintain your own happiness, to find serenity in the midst of the negativity that often swirls around you.
Seems like it should be fairly easy: listen your heart, be kind to others, and happiness should follow. Simple, right? But no one is an island, and we’re so very impacted by others’ currents. No matter how “up” you tend to be, when someone around you (especially someone you care about) is down, your energetic barometer sinks, too.
What can you do about this? I find that meditation helps. If my happiness takes a hit, I find a place to sit quietly and release the negativity that has entered my field. I focus on my heart, on the loving energy there, and feel its warmth blossom until it fills my energy body. It only takes a few minutes, but never fails to lift me up.
To take it further, you can try EFT tapping to release the negativity from your field. This modality involves gently tapping on meridian endpoints. For more information, see The Tapping Solution. I’ve had wonderful results using this technique.
To take it even further, you can try cutting cords to the person (or group) who brings you down. This doesn’t mean you sever all contact with them; it simply disrupts the flow of unhealthy energy between you. I have a cord cutting process that has helped me a lot; you can find it here.
Remind yourself that, although you care about someone, their negativity is theirs; it’s not up to you to fix them (or their life). Attempting to do so will only frustrate you, as well as interfering with whatever life lesson they are working through. It’s okay to be there for them, if you so choose, but don’t allow their negative energy to weigh you down. Releasing that which doesn’t belong to you can bring a feeling of buoyancy to your field, allowing you to float on a wave of serenity.
I’ve been getting so many signs of rebirth, renewal, releasing the old to make way for the new. While working in my garden (and taking the above picture), I actually stepped on a snakeskin. If that isn’t the Universe smacking me over the head with a sign of rebirth, I don’t know what is!
One thing that’s helped me with the process of releasing the old: Past Life Regression. By recognizing patterns across past (and parallel) lives, I’ve been able to start letting go of some of my outdated thought/behavior/belief patterns. With the summer solstice soon upon us, this is a wonderful time to explore and release the patterns which no longer support your journey. So I’ve decided to re-share my Past Life Exploration meditation:
You can also find this meditation on iTunes. Have a wonderful summer solstice!
My new meditation will help you get your energy ready for summer!
This quick energy cleanse will help you release negative energy from your field – along with anything else that doesn’t belong there. You can find it here or on iTunes.
For kids, parents, caregivers, teachers, administrators, and support staff, this process preps your field for a fun, relaxing summer by releasing that which has clung to you during the school year.
For everyone, this meditation can be done whenever you feel bogged down by negative energies or emotions. Once you get comfortable with the process, you can really use it anywhere, any time you need a quick boost!
Using positive statements in the present tense can help you create powerful change in your life. To be honest, when I first tried using affirmations, it felt awkward. But I gave the process a fair chance, and came to realize that it helped me utilize the power of the present moment to implement positive change. With repetition of affirmations, you can see your life start to align with the beautiful truth of who you really are.
In this meditation, we use a sampling of positive affirmations. Even if they don’t ring true for you at first, give them a try. Once you get used to the process, create your own affirmations, customized to your life, and use them in any way that feels right to you.
You can find my guided meditations here or on iTunes.